I've known for a while that my husband and I relax in different ways. For S, relaxing usually means completing things on his "to do" list. While it is satisfying to accomplish tasks, relaxing means something different to me. It's having the time to back a batch of muffins if I want. It's knitting. It's sending an e-mail to a friend or reading a blog post. It's looking through a magazine or catching up on reading.
This weekend, it became very obvious how far apart S and I really are on the relaxing scale. He was working on his list and I was preparing grades and sat down to send an e-mail to a parent. (I just wanted to get to the point of relaxing and I wasn't there yet. S was off work this week and could have sat around the whole week. Instead, he was whittling away at his "to do" list.) As I was typing, S told me what our daughter's BMI is. I acknowledged that I heard him and kept typing. Then he asked if I wanted him to calculate mine.
"No. I just want to get this e-mail typed."
"Just tell me your weight."
"No. I don't care. I know I'm overweight and I don't exercise enough. Knowing how bad it is will NOT help me. I just want to get this done so I can relax."
Of course, he got irritated with me. I was irritated that calculating my BMI was on his list of things to do. I decided his list was way too long and that he needs to learn how to really relax. You know, play a game, read a book, do something not on the list.
(Later, when I decided to blog about this, I looked up BMI and calculated mine. It's not as bad as I thought. And it turns out that calculating my BMI wasn't on his list. He just figured he'd do it while he was calculating his.)
So how do you relax and how often do you get to do it?